Welcome to The Talking Room - Personal Counselling Support
Talking is often the only thing needed to help someone.
Talking is often the only thing needed to help someone.
Counselling can help you to come to terms with life's challenges whether they be current or rooted in the past and provides you with coping strategies to ensure they don't become overwhelming.
However contacting a counsellor and having a series of sessions can be very daunting, so how do you know this is right for you?
A counsellor is someone who has been trained to help others understand or explore their emotional issues.
Counselling/psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies and practitioners work with people over a short or long term period to help bring about effective change or enhance a persons well-being.
This is why an initial meeting is good to explore whether or not counselling and my approach is right for you.
Having trained at Iron Mill College on an Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling for adults, I learnt various counselling theories which led me to take the ones that worked for me as a person and my personality.
This then gave me the foundation of my approach which I built on whilst gaining the Level 5 Certificate in Counselling Young People. I am more relationship driven than theory and the approach that models this is person centred.
PERSON CENTRED COUNSELLING
In the 1950's Carl Rogers proposed a form of therapy that focused on the client’s experience of themselves, as opposed to the counsellor being an expert and telling them what to do or what was wrong with them.
This therapy is based on a belief that every one of us strives for and has the capacity to fulfil their own potential. It identifies that each person has the desire for personal growth and change.
As a counsellor I recognise and trust people’s potential, providing clients with empathy and unconditional positive regard to help facilitate change. I avoid directing the course of therapy by following you the clients lead whenever possible. I offer support, guidance and structure so you can discover personalised solutions by yourself.
The therapy relies on the quality of the relationship between the counsellor and the client with the counsellor demonstrating what is known as the Core Conditions, which form the basis of the relationship.
THE CORE CONDITIONS ARE:
Person centred therapy harnesses the clients natural self-healing process and is a belief that all individuals have the power to live to their own organismic valuing process. You learn to trust your own judgement and to learn to live your life in line with your own values, rather than the value of others.
I have worked with adults and young people for many years in various settings including:
Schools, Sussed and 507 youth drop in advice centres, EDAS (Essential Drugs and Alcohol Services) and Wessex Cancer Trust.
Being a young person is not the easy ride that parent’s guardians or family members like to think it is. The world is a very different place to when they grew up.
Pressure from school, social groups plus high levels of expectation from a parent can lead to stress and anxiety. Home life, relationships with brothers or sisters can all have an impact on your wellbeing.
As a parent it can often be bewildering as to why your child is uncommunicative, miserable or even angry. Whilst some of these behaviours can be attributed to their ongoing mental and physical development, it can equally be related to circumstances or relationships around them that they feel intimidated by or unable to resolve.
Whatever the cause, if left unchecked a child or young person may demonstrate symptoms of anxiety, depression and self-harm or lead to other severe behavioural issues. Children and young people experience a more intense version of these issues than adults.
Talking therapy offers a safe space for children and young people to express their thoughts and feelings, without judgement and help them to explore their feelings and emotions.
As a counsellor, my role is to help them build the skills to manage these feelings and emotions for themselves by providing a tool kit of coping strategies, to help them reach their full potential.
Adolescence should be a time of enormous possibilities, creativity, learning and fun.
Counselling for children and young people can help with:
Adult counselling sessions are conducted one to one and in the strictest of confidence.
During our first meeting we will discuss what you would like to focus on and generate a contract that states what you would like to achieve from a series of sessions.
Despite the outward positive impressions people portray, many find it difficult to cope with the demands and pressures of daily life at some point in their life.
These pressures may be the result of current issues or past events, however it is possible to either resolve them or develop effective coping strategies.
Sometimes issues can be resolved by talking to a close friend or family member but sometimes it's more effective to talk to someone who is impartial and who can be objective. This is where a trained counsellor, who has experience in this field comes in.
The time we spend together is your time and we will work towards a plan that helps you obtain the improvements you seek in life.
Counselling can help with:
The following help sheets may explain how your feeling and why.
Remember your not alone.
Many people need help at some point in their lives.
Reaching out is the first and often the biggest step, just give it a try.